How do you write your own vows?

Your wedding day is one of the most special moments in your life, and saying your own vows makes it even more personal and intimate. At Wedding Company, we understand how important this moment is and want to help you find words that come straight from your heart. Whether you’re a born poet or have trouble putting your feelings into words, these tips and guidelines will help you write beautiful, heartfelt vows that perfectly reflect your love.

Why write your own vows?

Traditional wedding vows are wonderful, but personal vows give you the chance to express your love and promises in a unique way. Writing your own vows makes the moment extra emotional and meaningful. It’s an opportunity to share memories, promises, and dreams for the future with your partner and include everyone in your love story.

Step-by-step guide to writing vows

1. Start on time

Writing vows is not something you do quickly on the night before the wedding. Start several months in advance so that you have enough time to organize your thoughts and get inspired. Wedding Company advises using a special notebook or a digital document where you can write down ideas and spontaneous thoughts.

2. Reflect on your relationship

Take the time to think about your relationship. Ask yourself questions such as:

• When did you know your partner was the one?
• What makes your relationship unique?
• What qualities of your partner do you value the most?
• What challenges have you overcome together?
• What do you promise your partner for the future?

Answering these questions will give you a good idea of what you want to include in your vows.

3. Determine the tone and style

Do you want your vows to be romantic, humorous, or traditional? Or maybe a combination? Think about the style that best suits your relationship. Some couples take a serious and in-depth approach, while others like to add a touch of humor to make their vows lighter.

4. Keep it personal and authentic

Your vows don’t have to be a literary masterpiece; The most important thing is that they are genuine and authentic. Write as you normally would talk and avoid clichés. Use real stories and experiences to underscore your love and commitment.

5. Make promises

Vows are not only about loving words, but also about promises you make to your partner. Think of:

• “I promise to always make you laugh, even on the hardest days.”
• “I promise to support you in all your dreams and ambitions.”
• “I promise to choose you every day.”

These promises give meaning to your words and make your vows powerful and lasting.

6. Keep it short and sweet

Your vows don’t have to last for hours. Wedding Company recommends making them between one and two minutes long. This is long enough to express your feelings, but short enough to hold your guests’ attention.

7. Practice and rewrite

Write your first draft without worrying about perfection. Let it rest for a few days and then read it again. Adjust it where necessary and practice out loud in front of the mirror or with a friend. This helps to check that the text flows smoothly and that the words feel natural.

8. Write it on a beautiful card

While you probably know your vows by heart, it’s wise to write them down. Wedding Company advises to use a nice card or booklet in which you write down your vows. This is not only practical on the big day, but also a valuable keepsake.

Inspiration and examples

Here are some examples to get you started:

Romantic: “Dearest [naam], from the moment I met you, I knew that my life would never be the same again. You are my rock, my best friend and my great love. I promise to love you always, in good times and bad, and to choose you every day.”

Humorous: “I promise to always laugh with you, even if you tell the same lame jokes for the hundredth time. I promise to share the last slice of pizza with you – or at least consider sharing it with you. But most of all, I promise to love you always.”

Traditional: “I, [naam], take you, [naam], as my beloved partner. I promise to remain faithful to you for better or for worse, for better or for worse, for in wealth and poverty, for health and sickness, until death do us part.”

Common mistakes to avoid

• Vows that are too long: Keep it concise and powerful.
• Too many inside jokes: Nice memories are great, but make sure your guests understand it too.
• Too formal or impersonal: Your vows should reflect your personality.
• Failure to practice: Practice helps to reduce nerves and ensure smooth delivery.

Conclusion

Writing your own vows is a wonderful way to show your love and commitment to your partner. By starting on time, analyzing your relationship, and making authentic promises, you can write vows that come straight from your heart. Wedding Company is happy to help you with tips and inspiration, so that you can express your love with confidence on your wedding day.

Would you like more advice or inspiration? Visit Wedding Company and discover how we can help you make your wedding day an unforgettable moment!